Comments on: The Price of Unrealistic Expectations http://richwklein.com/2010/01/20/the-price-of-unrealistic-expectations/ A blog about nothing Tue, 05 Apr 2011 02:07:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Tom Drapeau http://richwklein.com/2010/01/20/the-price-of-unrealistic-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-11643 Tom Drapeau Thu, 21 Jan 2010 16:13:40 +0000 http://richwklein.com/?p=991#comment-11643 Indeed Rich, and fair point about discouraging young marriage, considering that kids in their teens and early 20's can smell arbitrary parenting from a mile away, and will often rebel against it. :-) And being a proud father myself, I concur, naps are worth their weight in gold. Indeed Rich, and fair point about discouraging young marriage, considering that kids in their teens and early 20′s can smell arbitrary parenting from a mile away, and will often rebel against it. :-)

And being a proud father myself, I concur, naps are worth their weight in gold.

]]> By: Tom Drapeau http://richwklein.com/2010/01/20/the-price-of-unrealistic-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-11916 Tom Drapeau Thu, 21 Jan 2010 16:13:00 +0000 http://richwklein.com/?p=991#comment-11916 Indeed Rich, and fair point about discouraging young marriage, considering that kids in their teens and early 20's can smell arbitrary parenting from a mile away, and will often rebel against it. :-) And being a proud father myself, I concur, naps are worth their weight in gold. Indeed Rich, and fair point about discouraging young marriage, considering that kids in their teens and early 20′s can smell arbitrary parenting from a mile away, and will often rebel against it. :-)

And being a proud father myself, I concur, naps are worth their weight in gold.

]]> By: Rich http://richwklein.com/2010/01/20/the-price-of-unrealistic-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-11641 Rich Thu, 21 Jan 2010 15:56:50 +0000 http://richwklein.com/?p=991#comment-11641 Depending on the study between 60% and 70% of divorces are initiated by the women in the relationship. Most of these studies that I've seen do include other reasons for women filing besides dissatisfaction including custody issues. While I agree that parents of teen kids should encourage dating with different people, I do disagree slightly with discouraging 20 somethings from marrying. While the 20s are a huge growth time for most people. I see that as an opportunity for people to grow up together and become closer. I do really think parent involvement is crucial here. They really need to help set expectations about relationships and marriage. They should really take the time to discuss things like romance novels and shows like bridezilla or my super sweet sixteen. How the behaviors in these shows are not appropriate and should not be expected from an actual working relationship. Look at any standard romantic comendy. If any guy behaved like in one of these movies he would end up in jail for stalking and most guys would not behave like that in the first place. I also think that women should really understand that a man can show his love and appreciating for his wife without a big romantic act. It might be as simple as watching the kids so she can take a nap. Depending on the study between 60% and 70% of divorces are initiated by the women in the relationship. Most of these studies that I’ve seen do include other reasons for women filing besides dissatisfaction including custody issues.

While I agree that parents of teen kids should encourage dating with different people, I do disagree slightly with discouraging 20 somethings from marrying. While the 20s are a huge growth time for most people. I see that as an opportunity for people to grow up together and become closer.

I do really think parent involvement is crucial here. They really need to help set expectations about relationships and marriage. They should really take the time to discuss things like romance novels and shows like bridezilla or my super sweet sixteen. How the behaviors in these shows are not appropriate and should not be expected from an actual working relationship. Look at any standard romantic comendy. If any guy behaved like in one of these movies he would end up in jail for stalking and most guys would not behave like that in the first place.

I also think that women should really understand that a man can show his love and appreciating for his wife without a big romantic act. It might be as simple as watching the kids so she can take a nap.

]]> By: Rich http://richwklein.com/2010/01/20/the-price-of-unrealistic-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-11915 Rich Thu, 21 Jan 2010 15:56:00 +0000 http://richwklein.com/?p=991#comment-11915 Depending on the study between 60% and 70% of divorces are initiated by the women in the relationship. Most of these studies that I've seen do include other reasons for women filing besides dissatisfaction including custody issues. While I agree that parents of teen kids should encourage dating with different people, I do disagree slightly with discouraging 20 somethings from marrying. While the 20s are a huge growth time for most people. I see that as an opportunity for people to grow up together and become closer. I do really think parent involvement is crucial here. They really need to help set expectations about relationships and marriage. They should really take the time to discuss things like romance novels and shows like bridezilla or my super sweet sixteen. How the behaviors in these shows are not appropriate and should not be expected from an actual working relationship. Look at any standard romantic comendy. If any guy behaved like in one of these movies he would end up in jail for stalking and most guys would not behave like that in the first place. I also think that women should really understand that a man can show his love and appreciating for his wife without a big romantic act. It might be as simple as watching the kids so she can take a nap. Depending on the study between 60% and 70% of divorces are initiated by the women in the relationship. Most of these studies that I’ve seen do include other reasons for women filing besides dissatisfaction including custody issues.

While I agree that parents of teen kids should encourage dating with different people, I do disagree slightly with discouraging 20 somethings from marrying. While the 20s are a huge growth time for most people. I see that as an opportunity for people to grow up together and become closer.

I do really think parent involvement is crucial here. They really need to help set expectations about relationships and marriage. They should really take the time to discuss things like romance novels and shows like bridezilla or my super sweet sixteen. How the behaviors in these shows are not appropriate and should not be expected from an actual working relationship. Look at any standard romantic comendy. If any guy behaved like in one of these movies he would end up in jail for stalking and most guys would not behave like that in the first place.

I also think that women should really understand that a man can show his love and appreciating for his wife without a big romantic act. It might be as simple as watching the kids so she can take a nap.

]]> By: Blaine http://richwklein.com/2010/01/20/the-price-of-unrealistic-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-11640 Blaine Thu, 21 Jan 2010 04:14:12 +0000 http://richwklein.com/?p=991#comment-11640 This is going on with a lot of my classmates back home. So weird. This is going on with a lot of my classmates back home.
So weird.

]]> By: Blaine http://richwklein.com/2010/01/20/the-price-of-unrealistic-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-11914 Blaine Thu, 21 Jan 2010 04:14:00 +0000 http://richwklein.com/?p=991#comment-11914 This is going on with a lot of my classmates back home. So weird. This is going on with a lot of my classmates back home.
So weird.

]]> By: Tom Drapeau http://richwklein.com/2010/01/20/the-price-of-unrealistic-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-11639 Tom Drapeau Thu, 21 Jan 2010 00:22:43 +0000 http://richwklein.com/?p=991#comment-11639 Yeah, the 7 year itch. I've seen it myself, and I've seen it both ways. Not sure how much to read into the 2/3 figure, I was married once at 22 after living with her for 3 years, divorced with cause at 27, and now am tremendously happy after meeting my sweetheart at 30 and now married at 34. People tend to get married in their early to mid 20's, but a lot changes about a person in their 20's. I think parents should be encouraging their H.S. age kids to go on dates with different people so they can experience different viewpoints on life and thus better figure out what they want. Some time studying abroad is great too, different cultures view relationships differently. Finally, I think parents should discourage their 21 year old kids from jumping into marriage. Courtship is a beautiful time that shouldn't be rushed. My $0.02 anyway. :-) Yeah, the 7 year itch. I’ve seen it myself, and I’ve seen it both ways. Not sure how much to read into the 2/3 figure, I was married once at 22 after living with her for 3 years, divorced with cause at 27, and now am tremendously happy after meeting my sweetheart at 30 and now married at 34. People tend to get married in their early to mid 20′s, but a lot changes about a person in their 20′s.

I think parents should be encouraging their H.S. age kids to go on dates with different people so they can experience different viewpoints on life and thus better figure out what they want. Some time studying abroad is great too, different cultures view relationships differently. Finally, I think parents should discourage their 21 year old kids from jumping into marriage. Courtship is a beautiful time that shouldn’t be rushed.

My $0.02 anyway. :-)

]]> By: Tom Drapeau http://richwklein.com/2010/01/20/the-price-of-unrealistic-expectations/comment-page-1/#comment-11913 Tom Drapeau Thu, 21 Jan 2010 00:22:00 +0000 http://richwklein.com/?p=991#comment-11913 Yeah, the 7 year itch. I've seen it myself, and I've seen it both ways. Not sure how much to read into the 2/3 figure, I was married once at 22 after living with her for 3 years, divorced with cause at 27, and now am tremendously happy after meeting my sweetheart at 30 and now married at 34. People tend to get married in their early to mid 20's, but a lot changes about a person in their 20's. I think parents should be encouraging their H.S. age kids to go on dates with different people so they can experience different viewpoints on life and thus better figure out what they want. Some time studying abroad is great too, different cultures view relationships differently. Finally, I think parents should discourage their 21 year old kids from jumping into marriage. Courtship is a beautiful time that shouldn't be rushed. My $0.02 anyway. :-) Yeah, the 7 year itch. I’ve seen it myself, and I’ve seen it both ways. Not sure how much to read into the 2/3 figure, I was married once at 22 after living with her for 3 years, divorced with cause at 27, and now am tremendously happy after meeting my sweetheart at 30 and now married at 34. People tend to get married in their early to mid 20′s, but a lot changes about a person in their 20′s.

I think parents should be encouraging their H.S. age kids to go on dates with different people so they can experience different viewpoints on life and thus better figure out what they want. Some time studying abroad is great too, different cultures view relationships differently. Finally, I think parents should discourage their 21 year old kids from jumping into marriage. Courtship is a beautiful time that shouldn’t be rushed.

My $0.02 anyway. :-)

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